Crafting the Love Scene in a Romance Novel

Writing a love scene isn’t something you should just drop into your novel or story just because you wish to class it as a romance. A love scene needs to be woven in so intricately that it appears seamless. If you go to a book store and pick up a romance novel, you should be able to tell from the first few pages the following things:

a. That it’s a romance by the words and phrases used.

b. The heat level. Whether it’s a sweet or inspirational novel with little or no sex; a Harlequin Mills and Boon Modern Romance [with a moderate amount of love making scenes], or one of their more steamy lines such as Blaze; or highly erotic such as the Black Lace books, or Accent Press.

c. If it has sexual tension. Even in the sweet or inspirational novels, if it is a romance there should be some sort of sexual tension going on, otherwise it is simply not a romance. Even if we do not get beyond the bedroom door, there needs to be some sort of chemistry between the hero and heroine for it to be classed as romance.

A love scene is not:

a. Two characters behaving against their character traits just to get a bit of lovemaking on the page.

b. A device used to fill up pages. That would be cheating the reader.

A love scene should only be used if:

a. It’s crucial to the plot

b. It moves the story along

c. It reflects the characters’ motivations.

If a love scene can be removed from your novel without it affecting the plot, then it wasn’t really needed in the first place.

When writing a love scene the setting needs to compliment the characters’ emotions. The characters’ senses need to be sharpened and heightened for a love making scene.

A love scene should:

Tell the reader something more about the characters. Maybe it’s a time when a sense of humour comes into play. Or maybe it highlights their fears. After all, the two strongest emotions are said to be love and fear, with fear being the stronger of the two. So perhaps one of the characters fears falling in love or fears losing that love. Those kinds of things can provide the conflict to propel your plot forward.

Ways to Bring Back The Romance in Your Love Life

Finding a love is rather simple for many. However, keeping that love is the real and ultimate test of truth. Intimacy in a relationship bubbles from romance, and it take the effort of both the partner to keep the romance alive.

For some people, the fear of falling out of love begins when they note a lack of romance. Unfortunately what they fail to do is put in a little effort and bring back the romance into their love life. Appreciating each other’s character is a key element. You and your partner may have several things that you like and have in common.

You can always point out things you do not like in your partner, or simply accept the flaw and move on with them. Nobody is born perfect isn’t it? Make sure you are not focusing on fishing out the wrongs in your partner but on the positive things making each other a better person, focusing on the right things to cherish.

Communication helps to foster a good relationship. Long talks about life and plans, investments, adventures will help cement the romance. Sharing is caring, never shut the doors of communication.

It is also good to talk and reminisce about the past, the fun time and even those tough times that you both went through. Avoid making your conversation a topic that centers about you and what you want or like, but more of what your partners would like or want yet directing it to have you included in them.

The one thing that may kill the romance is arguments. The worse of it is taking the argument to bed with you, which means you both go to bed mad and aggravating the situation. Just resolve all your issues before you go to sleep.

Silence is also an alternative, but not all the way to the bed. You should take time to say or show that you still love and care before sleeping. A good way of keeping the romance burning is by letting the evening be a moment for both to unwind and enjoy each others company.

Show each other love through simple expressions such as a cuddle. It is a solid way of building a firm foundation for the love you share. Most of the silly yet cute things that you did when you started dating are the fuels that will keep the romance alive. These are the things that most people tend to overlook.

Hold hands when watching your favourite movie, or surprise dances when you hear music that you both love, exchanging unexpected kisses and other silly little things are great expression of love that will work wonders, igniting the romance.

Life is too short for arguments, spread the love around.

From Foreplay to Positive Messages: Why People Love Romance Novels

Growing up, romances were considered the worse books to read in my house. At least certain romances were. Chick lit and high school romances were acceptable to read on occasion and classics were always fine. But traditional romances with a man and a woman embracing on the cover? Those were trashy, poorly written, and only worth reading for the sex scenes which probably made up at least half of the book’s contents.

After a certain age, I was allowed to read whatever book I wanted to, but romances were still looked down upon as the least valuable genre. However, by the time I hit middle school, romance novels were just too tempting.

Since they’re available at every place ever that sells secondhand books, it wasn’t hard for me to find romances and form my own opinions about romances. And it wasn’t long before I really liked them, so much that I started my own blog to review just them. And millions of other readers love them just as much.

There are a lot of stereotypes involving avid romance readers, like desperate spinsters, lonely women, and curious teenage girls. But the truth is, the majority of romance readers are college educated women who are married and have fulfilling lives. So even though there is a level of escapism, there’s a lot more to the appeal of romance than that.

Many women, myself included, like it for the positive messages in the books. The heroine almost always has insecurities about her body or her wits or personality and yet the hero is still completely enraptured by her. For instance, in Lord Braybrooke’s Penniless Bride by Elizabeth Rolls, Christina Daventry is incredibly insecure about her financial means, looks, and heritage. As the bastard daughter of a nobleman, she is only one wrong move away from being on the streets. However, somehow she captures the heart of Lord Braybrooke without even really trying. While people could chalk it up to the fact that she’s really beautiful without even knowing it, that’s not true in all romances. In Morning Comes Softly by DebbieMacomber, Montana rancher Travis Thompson marries a woman he doesn’t think it beautiful in the slightest. However, he ends up falling in love with her anyway. While not everyone thinks finding love is the ultimate goal in life, in romance books, it means happiness. Romance books say that everyone can find happiness without changing who they are.

While the positive message is attractive to readers of all ages, others, especially teenagers, have another reason to read romances.

“They help me study for SATs,” a friend once told me, laughing. “It’s strange, but where else am I going to read words like florid, staccato, and amorous outside of vocab exercises and classics?”

She had a point. Despite my family’s thought that all romances are poorly written, I have noticed that I need to turn to the dictionary with them more than any other genre. It’s not so much that they are trying to hard to be ‘intellectual’. It’s more that there is a lot of emotion in romance books, even more than other genre because the main storyline is an emotional connection. Sometimes, ‘happy’, ‘sad’, and ‘angry’ just doesn’t cut it so the writer turns to bigger and less-used words to describe their characters and their settings. While this isn’t really a reason to read romance books, it is a bonus for some people. I know I’m not the only one who thinks so. In the guidance counselor office at my school were some romance books with the SAT study material that had been picked out for their vocab usage.

And of course, plenty of people read romance for escapism. Many like the idea of a man completely devoted and focused on them, without the distractions of social media, sports, or work. Some compare reading romance novels to foreplay because in romance books, the women always have the men’s full attention, which is also true for foreplay. For those in the teenage crowd, they like experiencing romance in the books because they are curious or their own love life is lack-luster from slim pickings at their school. But even those satisfied with their love lives love romance books for escapism because they don’t just show an ideal relationship. They also show an ideal world, where there’s always a happy ending, family reunions are fun without the stress, and bad hair days are once in a blue moon. Even dystopian worlds are considered ideal, because they are full of excitement and danger, unlike our usual, monotonous yet safe lives.

No matter what your reason is for loving romance, if you are as avid a reader as I am, you probably burn through the books easily. Sometimes I can read as many as four of them a month. Actually romance readers read more than readers of every other genre. Scribd actually had to remove the majority of their romances because the cost of the books the readers were reading exceeded the amount they were getting in subscriptions. However, it’s often hit or miss on if the romance is good or not. Even the tight genres provided by Harlequin and Silhouette can have a few duds in a brand you normally like.