Long Distance Romance – Will It Last?

Love can happen anywhere and anytime in a person’s life. In fact there is no known boundary or obstacle that could hold back a romantic relationship regardless of the situation. This includes long distance romance which has grown by leaps over the past few decades. Thanks to the emergence of online dating and social networking sites, falling in love over the internet is as easy as the offline world in the recent years. Fueled by the fact that more and more people is turning to the internet for the purpose of finding love online, we can see an exponential increase in romance formed over the distance. However this phenomenon has its toll on the distance couples who are not prepared to be in a long distance romance. Over the years, many long distance couples who fall in love via the internet often asked whether they are able to have a lasting relationship especially when their partner is from different geographical location. As a result many long distance couples were stuck in a situation where they cannot move forward or backward in the relationship.

The answer to this question really depends on yourself because you have direct control over the relationship regardless of its status. Just like a normal relationship, you should have an idea on how far you want to proceed in the relationship the moment you start it. Everything else including responsibilities and efforts you put in later are base on this idea alone. For example if you know that you have found your Mr. Right, would you put the utmost effort to make sure that the relationship work? Of course you would and the same principle applies to distance romance because its’ success really depend on the couple who drives it.

Throughout our work on distance relationship, we have seen both ends of the scale and the results depend only on one trait, how you treat the relationship right from the beginning. Your distance romance will eventually fail if either you or your partner treats it badly and worse if either one of you do not have confidence in it. On the other hand, if your long distance romance is fueled by confidence and desire to success, then you should have no problem in having a fruitful relationship.

Long distance relationships are no different than any other relationships apart from the distance. As long as you know how to bridge the distance, having a lasting and fruitful distance relationship is not a problem at all. Bridging the distance here means you do not allow the distance to come in between your relationship and prevent you from exerting your responsibility as a relationship couple. Distance sometimes is just a barrier that you have in mind and you must remove this barrier if you want to have a lasting long distance romance. In addition to that you must also treat the distance relationship with highest respect and care just like a normal ordinary relationship if it is important to you.

Another element you need to have in building a long distance romance is to have confidence in it right from the beginning. You must not start a distance relationship without having confidence in it because confidence will always makes a difference in the relationship. As such if you do not have any confidence towards a distance romance, our advice is to wait until you gain the necessary confidence before proceeding further. It is sometimes alright to wait rather than wasting your time trying to build a relationship which you do have confidence in and quit later.

Lastly a long distance romance can only work if both the distance couples are willing to work towards it. This mean both the partner is willing to put their time and effort in making the relationship work. There is no point committing into a relationship when only one partner is putting effort on it. So the question to whether will long distance romance last really depends on how the couples see and work on it. In fact our advice for you is to continue to work on the basic if you were to ask this question because you are simply not ready yet. This question will no longer be applicable once you are ready and have confidence that the distance relationship would work regardless of the circumstances.

Writing Romance 101 – Avoiding The Too Stupid To Live (TSTL) Heroine

Your heroine hears a strange noise in the basement, a noise that doesn’t belong there. She is alone. Clasping only a flashlight and a baseball bat, she creeps downstairs to confront the villain, deliberately putting herself in danger.

This may work in horror films. It doesn’t in romance. This bra and panty clad girl is a too stupid to live (TSTL) heroine. Readers and editors groan when they read her dumb actions. They don’t offer her writer publishing contracts. They don’t buy her books. She is the kiss of death in romance.

How to avoid writing a TSTL heroine?

The women reading your books are, on average, normal, sensible women. Often, while reading, they’re pretending they are the heroine. When putting your heroine into any situation, ask yourself “how would a normal, sensible woman act?”

In this case, she would call 9-1-1 and wait for the police to arrive. She would get dressed. She would turn on all the lights. Perhaps she’d run to the neighbors to wait until help arrived.

But that doesn’t make for interesting reading, does it? It is much more exciting to have the brave girl take her chances in the pitch black basement. Then, ask yourself “Why would any normally sensible woman do that?”

What if, due to tornado warnings in the area and her overprotective nature, her child is sleeping in the basement? The power is out because of the storm. 9-1-1 is overrun with calls and she’s put on hold. Suddenly your heroine has motivation. There is no one else coming to save them and she’ll do anything to keep her child safe, even brave a possible intruder. She is not being stupid. She is doing what needs to be done.

Romance Novel Review: Beautiful Mess by Lucy V. Morgan

Genre: Contemporary Romantic Comedy

Average Goodreads Rating: 3.46 stars

My Rating: 5 stars

Life is looking down for Bailey when she gets dumped by her long-term boyfriend Craig. Not even her three best friends– Tom, Olly and Linc– can cheer her up. Not for a lack of trying on their part. They bought her Jagermeister and wrote her a song comparing Craig to a slutty werewolf.

It doesn’t help that Bailey makes wedding cakes for a living, or that Valentine’s Day is coming up.

But her friend Linc knows what she needs to cheer up, and he is completely willing to give it to her.

It’s finally been done: a romance novel with a nerdy love interest. Hallelujah.

Not a pseudo-nerd who’s introverted but still a charismatic billionaire, but a genuine, video-game playing, YouTube-video making, awkwardly sweet nerd.

“Anyone would think that you were trying to seduce me, Linc.”

“I think… I think maybe I am.” He nudged my shoulder gently. “Is that okay?”

He is the best. Linc’s shyness and awkwardness is adorable, and he always has Bailey’s best interests at heart, even above his own. Despite being in love with her for five years, Linc wasn’t happy to hear about Bailey’s breakup with Craig. Instead he was concerned about her and wanted to make her happy. The seducing didn’t come until later.

And this might be a short romance novel– it took me about three hours to read– but it’s very well-done, and hilarious.

Bailey’s personality is great. She’s witty, relatable, and comes up with the best descriptions, like:

It’d been a week since I broke up with a guy who not only chewed my heart up and spat it out, but slowly re-ingested it so he could (poop) it on to crackers and feed it to parrots with attachment issues.

Crazy and yet accurate, right?

The book is filled with great imagery like that. There is also some very real chemistry between Bailey and her friends. Their relationships don’t feel forced at all and I love that Olly and Linc are YouTube celebrities with supernatural parody songs.

Not only do they remind me of Danny and Aaron from Starbomb, which I’m a fan of, but it also allows for songs like “Slutty Werewolf”, which I really wish was a real song. I can’t post the lyrics here because of the language, but, Lucy V. Morgan, if you end up reading this, please record and make a video of the Slutty Werewolf song. I need it. The internet needs it. The world needs it.

The only thing I didn’t like was Bailey’s pet rats. Yes, they add to her quirkyness, but they’re rats. I just got rid of a bad rat infestation in my house a couple of months ago, so every time she cuddled one of those rodents I kept thinking uillew. (I took me ten minutes to sound out the noise I was making in my head so I could spell it properly. You’re welcome.)

But this isn’t really a story or writing flaw. This is just me being specist. So I’m not taking any partial stars off for the rats. Beautiful Mess is a rare five star book for me.