Chinese Good Luck Symbols – Part 2 – Attract Love, Romance With Feng Shui

How do Chinese feng shui symbols attract love and romance?

In feng shui compass school method, Southwest is the place for love, romance, marriage and family . and it is believed that an image of a couple in the Southwest side of your home or room can attract love, romance and happy marriage.

I have very good experience using this area for my relationship.

What I did was to display the image, picture of my favorite type of person on the wall in the Southwest area of my room. Also an image of a love couple, of a dream house surrounded by a beautiful flower garden. Also a pair of rose quartz figurines. In the southeast corner of my room, I placed a small plant with red ribbon around the bowl of plants which was given by my friend as a wedding favor.

As a result, when I was single , I had so many opportunities to meet people who look like the image picture of my favorite person.

Here are some Chinese feng shui symbols for love, romance and happy marriage and also mystical symbols to increase your love opportunity:

Pair of love birds ( or mandarin ducks )

Love birds symbolize happy marriage and couple. Placing pair figurines show that you are not alone, you always have a partner in your life.

Dragon & phoenix couple

Dragon & Phoenix couple image represents emperor and empress ( husband & wife ) which symbolizes happy marriage with a lot of wealth, and brings luxury life.

Peach tree

Peach tree symbolizes longevity in Chinese tradition, however in my experience, displaying a peach tree image or peach flowers brought great love opportunities. I was placing fake peaches ( fruit ) in the Southwest corner of my room.

Pink flowers & plants

Placing live pink color flowers in the southeast corner of your house is believed to bring a lot of new relationship opportunities. Also placing a lot of plants in the southeast corner can get the same.

Basically, according to feng shui compass school method, southwest is the place for relationship & family, and southeast is for wealth , but I realized this area ( southeast) also has the power to increase new relationship opportunities when you place colorful flowers or plants with red ribbon.

Flower design blanket and curtain

Colorful flower design symbolizes love and romance. Avoid to use dark color flowers such as blue flowers.

Rose quartz happy buddha

Rose quartz symbolizes love, romance and good relationship. Happy buddha ( laughing buddha) also is called ” Hotei ” symbolizes joy and happiness. The combination of rose quartz and happy buddha are a powerful good luck symbol for love opportunity & marriage.

Phoenix , horse, bird

If you want to bring popularity into your life, displaying the image of phoenix or horse or bird at the south corner of your home can help .

Chinese double happiness symbol

Double happiness is an excellent feng shui symbol for wedding luck.

The meaning of the word is ” Joy, Happiness ” in Chinese and it is written twice.

If you wish to find romance and a future partner, great to place the double happiness symbol in the southwest corner of your house or room or carry it in your handbag or purse.

Wedding favors

Wedding favors are a very powerful item when you receive it from your friend or family who are full of happiness at the wedding party. Place the wedding favor in the southwest or southeast corner of your house or room.

Joining happy events is always good luck, unless you don’t get negative mind when you are by yourself.

Crystals

Natural crystal quartz is extremely effective to activate earth energy of southwest corner and it will attract romance into your life. Especially when you place crystal ( or hang it ) by the window which catches sunlight , it will expand yang energy around the space.

Travel to good direction for love

To go traveling in the love direction ( you will need to check this, because every year, every month , it’s different. ) can bring you love luck , during traveling and in your close future. If you want to change your love luck, this is also very effective.

Romance Is Not Necessarily Love

In romantic depictions of love, cute little images of cherubs and cupids abound. But Cupid, in his real incarnation, is not so sweet and cuddly. His arrows can create deep and lasting wounds, and can strike you blind and irrational in a heartbeat. A few disaster-filled run-ins with Cupid’s dart and you can readily believe that love will never work for you.

Even if you take responsibility for your own life in most ways and successfully handle most work and social situations, when it comes to intimate relationships you may feel helpless and out of control. You may find yourself inexplicably obsessing on someone who isn’t available or interested, or even feeling so needy and helpless that you are unable to protect yourself when you are criticized, abused or degraded. It’s a very painful experience when a romantic relationship with the partner whom you hope and expect will provide you with love, joy and fulfillment of our dreams turns into a miserable, disappointing and dismal failure.

A Dependent Image of Love

When it comes to love, it’s easy to forget how to think clearly, because we have all been bombarded with images that imply love and dependency are the same thing:

• Lovers should depend on each other to supply their needs, to take care of them and “make it better”,

• Lovers should need each other “You are my happiness, I’d die without you”

• Lovers are incomplete without each other, and that two should “become one”-losing their individual personalities, friends, interests and opinions in the process.

This dependent image of love has been reinforced for generations of songs, poetry, plays, books, movies and television soap operas that have celebrated a dependent model of romantic relationships that contains neediness, desperation and the idea that only love (from a perfect partner) can make life better. This “ideal lover” is supposed to:

• Love you no matter how unreasonable you are,

• Always be there when you want or need him or her,

• Always know exactly how to sooth your hurts,

• Always know (and be prepared to give you) precisely what you want (even if you’re not sure yourself), and

• Put your needs before his or her own needs.

This “romantic” image of love sounds good, but although it seems exciting and fulfilling at first, such a relationship cannot flourish. Since no one else can ever care for you as well as you can yourself (they can’t know your needs and wants as well as you do, they can’t tell what their care-taking feels like to you, and they also have their hands full with their own needs), one or both of you will wind up feeling ripped off, used, neglected, unloved, and generally dissatisfied.

The romantic ideal creates dysfunctional relationships, in which the ground rules are:

• You can’t talk about it (it might upset the other person),

• It’s hopeless (since you can’t talk about it, you can’t solve it together), and

• We’re both helpless (we can’t control our own behavior, or outbursts of anger, or make effective choices).

Partner as Parent

In part, we have unrealistic fantasies about love because our first experience (and basic model) of intimate relationships was with parents who took care of us as children (and perhaps did not encourage us to become self-sufficient and responsible); or with parents who were not fully there to take care of us (as we knew they should).

While, on the surface, we are looking for someone we can enjoy and have fun with, our dependent, romantic inner self is secretly searching for a substitute for a parent-someone who will take care of us make our old wounds better, care about our feelings, and accept us for who we are. If you, like so many people, come from a family where you suffered rejection or abandonment at an early age, when you begin to search for a romantic partner, all too often, you find a substitute parent who is like the real parent who let you down, and you wind up repeating the old, subconscious patterns.

If you and your partner are fighting over silly things, if one or both of you suddenly “blows up” or gets angry and the other one doesn’t understand why, or if you feel very unsatisfied and restless in your relationship, consider that one or both of you may have some confusion about the difference between parental love, and love between equal partners.

A Mature Model of Love

When you let go of the dependent, childish view of love, and use the more adult model, you’ll get a different picture of familial love. Mature love is mutually caring, mutually giving and mutually responsible, without the dependent, needy or controlling imbalance of power present in the child/parent model. When you take responsibility for making love mutually satisfying, and expect equal maturity, responsibility and respect from your partner, you increase your power to receive and give love at full capacity, while retaining your self-esteem and sense of competence.

For more understanding of this, read ” When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships

Adapted from: Lovestyles: How to Celebrate Your Differences (Kindle and Paperback)

Crafting the Love Scene in a Romance Novel

Writing a love scene isn’t something you should just drop into your novel or story just because you wish to class it as a romance. A love scene needs to be woven in so intricately that it appears seamless. If you go to a book store and pick up a romance novel, you should be able to tell from the first few pages the following things:

a. That it’s a romance by the words and phrases used.

b. The heat level. Whether it’s a sweet or inspirational novel with little or no sex; a Harlequin Mills and Boon Modern Romance [with a moderate amount of love making scenes], or one of their more steamy lines such as Blaze; or highly erotic such as the Black Lace books, or Accent Press.

c. If it has sexual tension. Even in the sweet or inspirational novels, if it is a romance there should be some sort of sexual tension going on, otherwise it is simply not a romance. Even if we do not get beyond the bedroom door, there needs to be some sort of chemistry between the hero and heroine for it to be classed as romance.

A love scene is not:

a. Two characters behaving against their character traits just to get a bit of lovemaking on the page.

b. A device used to fill up pages. That would be cheating the reader.

A love scene should only be used if:

a. It’s crucial to the plot

b. It moves the story along

c. It reflects the characters’ motivations.

If a love scene can be removed from your novel without it affecting the plot, then it wasn’t really needed in the first place.

When writing a love scene the setting needs to compliment the characters’ emotions. The characters’ senses need to be sharpened and heightened for a love making scene.

A love scene should:

Tell the reader something more about the characters. Maybe it’s a time when a sense of humour comes into play. Or maybe it highlights their fears. After all, the two strongest emotions are said to be love and fear, with fear being the stronger of the two. So perhaps one of the characters fears falling in love or fears losing that love. Those kinds of things can provide the conflict to propel your plot forward.