You have just found out you are going to have to live apart from your partner… at least for the time being! Does this now spell the end of the intimacy between the two of you? It could… if you choose to let it happen. But it doesn’t have to turn out that way. You have choices to make; you will find there is much you can do to keep the spark in your relationship until you can be together again.
One of the best ways to open up to the possibilities is to embrace technology. Having the Internet at your disposal puts you light-years ahead of anyone who was in your situation just 20 years ago:
- you no longer have to rely on “snail mail” to get a message to your loved one.
- emails are just as personal as traditional mail and they’re instantaneous.
- Skype is another great form of communication that offers immediate results.
Another great method of personal messaging is to send your long distance love a personal e-card. These can easily be built from services online and the great thing is you really do not have to be an “IT” expert in order to navigate through the process. Some require a small charge, but most are free to use.
Take a video of yourself giving a personal message to your loved one and email it to them. This not only lets them see you in person, but they get to hear your voice as well. You can make it as private as you wish.
Use a webcam to interact with your partner. It requires the same type of equipment on both ends… but it’s as close to being face-to-face with them as you can get without actually being able to touch them.
If you really want to utilize the convenience of a webcam, plan on having dinner together. Pick a specific night to meet online, just like you would meet if you were both in the same town. Agree on a specific type of food you both want, say Italian, for instance. Both of you purchase take-out on that night and meet at the specified time with your meal. Then, sit down in front of your webcams and eat together.
Want to show them you’re willing to put in a little extra effort? Scan the Internet for a local radio station and call it to dedicate a song to your loved one. Then, contact them and have them tune in to hear their dedication.
Love can happen anywhere and anytime in a person’s life. In fact there is no known boundary or obstacle that could hold back a romantic relationship regardless of the situation. This includes long distance romance which has grown by leaps over the past few decades. Thanks to the emergence of online dating and social networking sites, falling in love over the internet is as easy as the offline world in the recent years. Fueled by the fact that more and more people is turning to the internet for the purpose of finding love online, we can see an exponential increase in romance formed over the distance. However this phenomenon has its toll on the distance couples who are not prepared to be in a long distance romance. Over the years, many long distance couples who fall in love via the internet often asked whether they are able to have a lasting relationship especially when their partner is from different geographical location. As a result many long distance couples were stuck in a situation where they cannot move forward or backward in the relationship.
The answer to this question really depends on yourself because you have direct control over the relationship regardless of its status. Just like a normal relationship, you should have an idea on how far you want to proceed in the relationship the moment you start it. Everything else including responsibilities and efforts you put in later are base on this idea alone. For example if you know that you have found your Mr. Right, would you put the utmost effort to make sure that the relationship work? Of course you would and the same principle applies to distance romance because its’ success really depend on the couple who drives it.
Throughout our work on distance relationship, we have seen both ends of the scale and the results depend only on one trait, how you treat the relationship right from the beginning. Your distance romance will eventually fail if either you or your partner treats it badly and worse if either one of you do not have confidence in it. On the other hand, if your long distance romance is fueled by confidence and desire to success, then you should have no problem in having a fruitful relationship.
Long distance relationships are no different than any other relationships apart from the distance. As long as you know how to bridge the distance, having a lasting and fruitful distance relationship is not a problem at all. Bridging the distance here means you do not allow the distance to come in between your relationship and prevent you from exerting your responsibility as a relationship couple. Distance sometimes is just a barrier that you have in mind and you must remove this barrier if you want to have a lasting long distance romance. In addition to that you must also treat the distance relationship with highest respect and care just like a normal ordinary relationship if it is important to you.
Another element you need to have in building a long distance romance is to have confidence in it right from the beginning. You must not start a distance relationship without having confidence in it because confidence will always makes a difference in the relationship. As such if you do not have any confidence towards a distance romance, our advice is to wait until you gain the necessary confidence before proceeding further. It is sometimes alright to wait rather than wasting your time trying to build a relationship which you do have confidence in and quit later.
Lastly a long distance romance can only work if both the distance couples are willing to work towards it. This mean both the partner is willing to put their time and effort in making the relationship work. There is no point committing into a relationship when only one partner is putting effort on it. So the question to whether will long distance romance last really depends on how the couples see and work on it. In fact our advice for you is to continue to work on the basic if you were to ask this question because you are simply not ready yet. This question will no longer be applicable once you are ready and have confidence that the distance relationship would work regardless of the circumstances.